If you mean “nigger” or “nigga’” I suppose, if one doesn’t want to offend, one shouldn’t use it in the midst of colored folk. However, many blacks say “it’s our word” with such conviction as if they took it.
The error in that is that we already have the stereotype of stealing. Why further that by claiming a word I presume whites created is now “ours?” All that does is galvanize anger or white guilt (both of which I typically detest) and resurrect racial paradigms.
For me it’s a word like any other. Inflection creates the derogatory nature; not the word itself.
Another issue is WHO can say it. In a group of that is comprised of blacks, white, Hispanics, Asians, etc.. it seems that the ONLY group who can’t say it is the white one. If we’re being childish- what did Asians, Hispanics, and others do to earn a close-enough affiliation with the black community to be pardoned when they use the nigger word? I mean for fuck’s sake Drake uses it. Half Jewish, half black… FROM TORONTO. Whatever struggle he’s been through probably isn’t the same as a typical American black (not like I care about that).
If you want to say it, say it. Those, being blacks, who react with physical violence are only perpetuating a stereotype that blacks that we’re not civil, overly confrontational, etc. If our nation can usually uphold “Freedom of Speech” so can all of us.